HELP! I forgot an important date!
OK. So you blew it. Your wife will give you hell for this. Here's how to head her off at the pass.
One word: Overkill
First you figure out what you need to do to make her happy. Then you absolutely, positively do more than is required.
We suggest:
- Immediately (meaning NOW) send her an internet greeting card. Even if she won't see it for a couple of days, you'll be covered in part by the time stamp on the confirming e-mail, should you need evidence of your efforts in court. We really mean NOW! Don't read more until you've done this!
- Immediately call her, tell her you love her, and tell her to be ready to go out this evening (or the first possible evening for you to be together). Be sure to apoligize to her for not meeting her expectations. Being up front will not get you out of hock, but it will score you some points. She'll hold not apologizing against you.
- As soon as you hang up with her, make reservations at a nice restaurant.
- If you have kids, make arrangements for the sitter.
- If you don't have kids, or if you can swing it, arrange to stay overnight at a good hotel (or a B&B or even a cheaper motel) - somewhere without the kids.
- Order flowers to be sent to her at work (and find a small bouquet to take with you when you next see her.)
- Find her a small gift. Just how big was this occassion you missed? Diamonds, clothes, or music? Make sure to wrap it nicely (or have it wrapped. Most online sites will gift wrap.)
- Consider a special occassion scavenger hunt.
- Send her another card after your date.
Do at least this much. You must do at least this much. You should also look at the Ideas page for other ideas and do a few of them. You may even replace some of the moves above with some more creative ideas from the Ideas page.
There are two reasons why your bride/girlfriend/significant other will make this really hard on you.
First, you've hurt her feelings. Women love it when you think about them. They hate KNOWING that you aren't thinking about them. That's why guys who remember are Romance-Guru and guys who forget need Romance-Gurus. Visit our reminder service page so we can send you reminders in advance of her special days.
Second, she doesn't want you to forget again. She figures if she beats you up about it, you'll remember next time - a result of her beginning college psychology class. Again, let us remind you using our reminder service page. You can also counteract this by overkilling your reaction to your memory lapse.
Good luck. And let us know how things turn out.
